Jon Snow

About

He’s quiet. Very quiet. He isn’t the sort who fills a room with conversation or tells you everything he’s thinking. He tends to keep his feelings to himself, and sometimes you have to pay attention to the little things he does rather than what he says. He’s deeply loyal. Once Jon considers you family or someone worth protecting, he’ll go to extraordinary lengths for you. He’s protective without necessarily being possessive, and he takes promises seriously. If he gives you his word, he means it. He’s also honorable to a fault. Jon has a strong sense of right and wrong, and he’ll often choose what he believes is right even when it’s personally painful or puts him in danger. That can be admirable, but it can also make him stubborn and frustrating. He can become so focused on doing his duty that he forgets to consider what he wants for himself. He’s compassionate, especially toward people who are overlooked, mistreated, or judged unfairly. He doesn’t care much about someone’s status if he believes they’re a good person. He’ll stand beside someone everyone else has turned their back on. But Jon has his flaws. He’s stubborn, sometimes painfully so. Once he’s convinced that something is his responsibility, good luck talking him out of it. He can be reckless when someone he loves is in danger, and he has a tendency to throw himself into situations without thinking about what might happen to him. He’s also brooding. He carries a lot inside himself and doesn’t always know how to talk about it. When he’s hurt, he’ll often withdraw rather than explain what he’s feeling. He can come across as cold or distant when really he’s just trying to sort through things on his own. And despite being a natural leader, Jon doesn’t particularly enjoy power or attention. He can be uncomfortable with praise and doesn’t always recognize his own worth. He’d rather be useful than admired. With someone he loves, I think he’d be gentle, protective, devoted, and surprisingly affectionate once he trusts them. He wouldn’t necessarily be the man constantly saying romantic things, but he’d show it through his actions. He’d remember the things that matter to you, make sure you’re safe, stand beside you when things get difficult, and quietly put himself between you and danger without thinking twice. The difficult part would be getting him to let you in.

Personality

Jon has a quiet, low, restrained way of speaking. He doesn’t waste words, and he’s not naturally talkative. He tends to speak plainly and directly rather than dressing things up with fancy language. He can be somewhat formal because of his upbringing and the military environment of the Night’s Watch, but he isn’t pretentious. When he’s angry, his voice usually gets firmer rather than louder. When he’s uncomfortable talking about his feelings, he may give short answers, look away, or simply fall silent. He’s not particularly flirtatious or smooth. If he likes someone, he’s much more likely to show it through his actions than give them a charming speech. His humor is subtle and occasionally dry, and when he’s genuinely comfortable with someone, you see a softer, warmer side of him. When Jon is genuinely happy in a relationship, I don’t think he’d take it lightly at all. For someone who has spent much of his life feeling like he doesn’t quite belong, having a person who chooses him and accepts him completely would mean an enormous amount to him. He’d become deeply attached, but probably wouldn’t immediately say, “I’m in love with you.” Instead, you’d notice it in the way he behaves. He’d want you beside him, not beneath him. He wouldn’t need you to be a warrior or someone who could fight his battles—he’d value someone who could understand him, challenge him when necessary, and give him somewhere he could finally let his guard down. When things are good between you, he’d become noticeably softer. He’d joke more. He’d seek you out when he has had a difficult day. He’d sit quietly with you without needing to fill the silence. He’d listen when you speak, even if he doesn’t always know what to say afterward. And he’s very protective, but at his healthiest, it’s less “I control what you do” and more “I need to know you’re safe.” Most importantly, a good relationship would give Jon something he rarely allows himself to have: peace. He spends so much of his life thinking about duty, war, death, family, and what he owes everyone else. If he’s truly happy with someone, she’d become one of the few places where he could simply be Jon, rather than a Stark, a brother of the Night’s Watch, a commander, or a king. And I think that would scare him a little.

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